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Are you seeing yourself from the perspective of lack?

February 21, 2017

By Mary Lou Stark

How easily and graciously do you accept compliments? Praise for the work you do and the creations of your heart, mind, and soul?

For years this was hard for me to do. I could see the missed stitch in my knitting. I could hear in my mind the key phrase I left out of my talk. I could see that my loaf of bread was paler than the photo in my favorite cookbook.

While in college I heard a story from a friend that helped a little with this. My friend had been a Boy Scout leader for years and developed a special affinity for the beliefs and customs of Native Americans. He had created his own costumes including an elaborate beaded headdress with eagle feathers.

When I would complain about my knitting errors he reminded me of a belief of the local tribes. They believed that only God could create perfection. In order to avoid angering God they would deliberately make a mistake in their beadwork or stitching.

Part of me wanted to forget this story and continue to blame myself for creating items that were less than perfect. Yet the remnants of that story are still in the back of my mind and poke their heads up when I chastise myself about my needlework.

If only I could apply that lesson consistently to the rest of my life.

It is easy to get caught up in the flow of negative thoughts such as

  • I’m not good enough.
  • I’m not smart enough.
  • I’m not diplomatic enough.
  • I’m not wealthy enough.
  • I’m just plain not enough.

I’m not sure when I first heard about the concept often referred to as “a self-fulfilling prophecy.” I have come across it many times over the years using different words but with the same underlying belief –

What you expect is what you get.

We frequently don’t recognize how subtly this can affect us. We go along as usual – doing our work, writing our articles. Then someone compliments us on something we wrote or a talk we gave. Frequently we take away from the value of the compliment by saying it was just our interpretation of something an “expert” had written about. In our minds we tear ourselves down even more. Every time we do this it erodes more of our confidence.

How frequently has this happened to you? Are you aware of it when it does happen?

When the phrase “not enough” is floating around it impacts on all we do. Sometimes we aren’t aware of its presence until after the fact. We create a talk or a program trusting that we are including the best of ourselves. We go back later to review it and recognize that we held back. We didn’t share our best self after all.

  • We stopped short of saying what we really believe for fear of offending “the gods” – those leaders in our field who hold different beliefs or opinions.
  • We stopped short of asking our clients or ourselves to take one more step into the void for fear of falling.
  • We stopped short of picking the vibrant colors that spoke to our soul for fear of shocking our family or friends.

It doesn’t matter if we are creating something physical, such as baking a special dessert, or creating something from words, such as writing an article or book, having thoughts of lack in the back of your mind will impact on it all.

How do we reverse the impact of feelings of lack, of not being enough?

Not by just declaring them to be gone. That won’t work.

However, we can begin to lessen the power of those thoughts by introducing new ones. Sometimes just repeating the phrase “I am willing to believe that I am able to ________” will tilt the scale in your favor.

One of my interests is parliamentary procedure (Robert’s Rules of Order). Most motions only require a majority vote to pass. Let’s take a closer look at this. No matter how many people are in the room, the only ones who count are those who actually vote.

And their vote doesn’t have to be unanimous – in fact it rarely will be. It just has to be more than half – 2 out of 3, 21 out of 40, 33 out of 65.

Think of your thoughts the same way. You don’t have to believe 100% that you can do something. You just have to be more than half way there.

Do you remember the children’s story The Little Engine Who Could? A small blue engine had to pull a train full of Christmas toys over a mountain to deliver them on time. All the way across the valley and up over the mountain she said “I think I can. I think I can. I think I can.” Once she crossed the top she switched to “I thought I could. I thought I could. I thought I could.”

Find a phrase that works for you such as:

  • “I think I can.”
  • “I’m enough”
  • “I believe I can.”

When you get ready to start a new project, pause, take a deep breath, and then repeat your phrase over and over until you feel confident and ready to begin.

Don’t worry if this burst of belief doesn’t carry you through to the end of the project. Just pause again, and repeat the process.

Remember – What you expect is what you get. Shift your thoughts whenever the ones you have aren’t working for you.

 

Mary Lou Stark, Book Enchantress, supports people in expressing their message through books, products, and services. She has the ability to focus a clear light on the core points of your message. This lets you reveal those ideas that are dear to your heart in a way that your audience will respond to. At the same time she lovingly encourages you as you work through the fears that spring up along the way.  To learn more visit: www.bookenchantress.com


Tangible Tool – Strategy for Receiving and Giving

January 3, 2017

Several years ago, I was in the post office waiting in line. A woman will a three seat stroller, which was loaded with packages was trying to open those heavy post office doors. I asked her if she needed help and she looked at me and said, “Nope, I’m fine.”

She obviously was not fine. She obviously did not have it all; she obviously needed support.

If this woman was saying no to support when she clearly required it, where else in her life was she not receiving?

Now, imagine all those places in your life that you really want to receive and then ask your Soul this question:

Why am I not receiving the support I desire?

 

Here’s another great question for your Soul to get the ball rolling in opening up and creating a personal strategy for receiving.
Remember before you ask it to create a conscious connection with your Soul via your Soul Language team.
What lie or untruth am I telling myself when it comes to giving and receiving?

 

What was the answer? More often than not, it is because somewhere inside of you, you believe you are not enough.
Let’s be frank here for a moment: on a daily basis I’m connecting to my Soul and helping others connect to their Soul and not enough still comes up for me. This is a big theme in human consciousness and because it is we can each keep going deeper in healing that challenge.
So here’s another Soulful question:

What can you activate (turn on like a super power) to stop fighting for your worthiness?

 

We believe that we must fight for our worthiness, we must prove it, we must take it and we must demand it. The truth is, feeling and understanding that you are worthy is a well-spring inside of you.

When you tap into it, it allows you to create miracles in every moment and in every situation. Would you like some examples of individuals that truly embodied this feeling of Divine Worth? Martin Luther King, Jesus, Gandhi, Mother Theresa, and others.

To begin the road to being both a great receiver and giver, you must have a personal strategy for receiving. This is a strategy for how you are going to get things and how you are going to give from the overflow.

Here’s the last Soulful question to open up your receiving:
What do I get to accept inside of me to open up the gates of receiving?


We are receiving all the time, whether we understand it or not. We spend a lot of time focusing on all of the things that we don’t have instead of concentrating on what we do have and how we can create a strategy to open ourselves up to more giving and receiving.

If you are interested in learning more about this subject…this month’s Soul Expedition Academy Class Creating a Personal Strategy For Receiving is open to all.

To learn more about this virtual group class click here.

If you have any questions or want to share your experience, please feel free to reach out to me via email.


Tangible Tool – Receiving Community

November 16, 2016

I have been witnessing something. We think we are connecting and yet, most of us are truly afraid to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is what drives receiving community.

We are living in a world that is fast paced and where we can “connect” with someone that lives half way around it. That doesn’t mean that we are experiencing true community.

We each have several types of communities in our lives: work, clients, family, friends, intimate partner, peer and spiritual.

I believe that there are elements to attracting a community that is nourishing and supports you. The elements are:

Understanding What You Want Out of Community: Most of us don’t even realize we want community and some of us use community to try and fill a void that can only be filled by ourselves. The starter question to understanding what you want out of community is, “What am I looking to experience in a community (and I suggest you ask this for each community – what am I looking to experience with my client community, with my family, etc.)?”

Understanding Your Commitment: Some people say you have to be all in to “get the most our of community”. I think that you have to be committed to being present.

There is a relationship field between you and everything on this planet, so understanding what you are putting into that relationship field will help you understand what is being reflected back at you.

The starter question here is, “What is my commitment level with this community (friends, family, etc) and am I holding myself to that commitment level?”

Understanding How To Express Yourself Clearly In Community: Often we do not communicate with others what we are looking to experience or what we “want” from that community. I believe it is mostly because we are unaware and afraid. Just a little awareness goes a long way here. I have a friend who always says, “All needs can be met when they are expressed clearly.”

Here are a couple of starter questions: “How do I want to be known in this community? What need is this community fulfilling?” (With the understanding that this community is a resource. It is not the Source for you – that’s your higher power).

Understanding That You Deserve Community: The big one! I hear so often from people that they don’t know what they will bring to a community, that they don’t feel good enough to attract those loving resources…well…if you feel this way, you are not alone. One of the reasons that we gravitate toward community is to understand that we are not alone, to have individuals who understand our ups and downs, and to experience joy in a greater way.

No starter question here, just an affirmation. “Today I am willing and able to accept that I deserve a community who loves and supports me for my essential being.”

Why We Need Spiritual Community
So often most individuals (including myself at one time) forget about adding this community to their list. Why? Yes, we can all gain insight from teachers, guides, books and telesummits AND there is something powerful about sitting (either virtually or physically) with individuals who all have the same focus.

It is amazing that when participants in a class share, we hear how alike our answers are and how much we can get a new perspective by hearing what we are studying in a new way. Interaction with others allows us to practice our consciousness and share our gifts.

It is a perfect playground to see where you still feel separate and to allow yourself the chance to evolve in the relationship. I will admit that I would so often just go to the Center, get my spiritual nourishment, and then leave. I will also admit that I could participate in the community a lot more fully.

When you enter into a spiritual community, it is your chance to be deeply nourished and for you to nourish the community back.

It is truly up to us how much community we wish to receive and participate in. Remember, the tools to receive community are already inside of you: trust, courage and movement.

If you have any questions or want to share your experience, please feel free to reach out to me via email.


Tangible Tool – What’s My Soul’s Learning

August 10, 2016

(In other words…what the heck is my Soul trying to tell me…)

Really take a moment and look at the picture to the left…what do you see? What is it? It is so complex and simple at the same time – so is your Soul (it’s the inside of a sunflower by the way).

Often, what is so simple to our Soul just doesn’t get through our thick skulls, so how can you really understand and embody what your Soul is telling, showing, explaining, guiding, and teaching you? I trust this tangible tool supports that success.

Tangible Tool:

Connect with your Soul via your Soul Language team (if you don’t know your Soul Language team, connect to your Soul in a way that resonates with you).
Ask your Soul this question, “What is the truth of my Soul?”
Ask your Soul to share with you how to embody this truth more and let go of the fear surrounding it.
Ask your Soul to activate that truth inside your body.
When you notice yourself feeling separate, afraid or in lack, activate your truth and then take action from there…

If you have any questions or want to share your experience, please feel free to reach out to me via email.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.


Tangible Tool – Affirm The I AM

July 7, 2016

The I AM statement is a powerful tool to focus and affirm what you truly desire. Often we use this statement unconsciously. And in doing so, we are giving a direct order for the Universe to respond. This is your opportunity to redirect your power of creation by changing how you use the I AM statement.

Tangible Tool:
  • Connect with your Soul via your Soul Language team (if you don’t know your Soul Language team, connect to your Soul in a way that resonates with you).
  • Ask your Soul to give you a powerful I AM statement.
  • Ask your Soul to share with you how to use this statement to create tangible transformation internally and externally.
  • Notice throughout your day how you are utilizing the words I AM and what you are affirming (what you truly want or the opposite).
  • When you notice yourself affirming those things that you don’t want or wish to experience, pause and utilize your powerful I AM statement.

I suggest keeping a journal of your awareness and keep connecting with your Soul to support new insights and next steps in transformation.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.


Tangible Tool – Your Giving and Receiving Essential Nature 

June 8, 2016

In every relationship and every interaction, there is an exchange of giving and receiving. I hear from so many of you that you feel like you aren’t receiving, that you feel like you are over-givers, and that you just don’t know how to make the receiving happen.

What if, for a moment, you could stop the tug of war and transcend those past experiences? What if those past experiences could be used as fuel to create what is already yours, rather than utilizing the pain as protection from being hurt?

Would you give it a try? Would you keep practicing that tool until it out-pictured (manifested) or would you give up after a week?

Well, here’s your chance to practice!

Tangible Tool:

  • Connect with your Soul via your Soul Language team (if you don’t know your Soul Language team ,connect to your Soul in a way that resonates with you).
  • Ask Divine Intelligence to fill your body with the knowing and the feeling of being in your essential nature of giving and receiving.
  • Ask your Soul to share with you a word or image so you can activate this essential nature at any time.
  • Spend at least one minute each day being in this energy of your essential giving and receiving nature, seeing it and feeling it as the center of the Universe. See your essential nature moving out into the Universe and returning to you.
  • Offer yourself, your Soul and the Universe (and everyone in it) gratitude.
  • Keep track of what happens in your everyday life so you can acknowledge how this practice supports you and what you wish to create.

I suggest you share the experience with someone so you can be supported and witnessed.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.


How to Co-Create with the How

March 4, 2016

The first step is to understand, in a deeper way, your sacred purpose (some people call this your purpose, mission or simply why am I on this planet at this time). Once you have a deeper understanding of this sacred purpose, it makes the how much, much easier. 

My sacred purpose is to Alleviate Suffering Through Connection. And, in every action I take, I ask myself, “Will this help myself and others, alleviate suffering and be connected?”So let’s ask a question to get you understanding your sacred purpose more. Create a conscious connection with your Soul via your Soul Language Team and ask the following question:

  • “What is the one thing I want to embody fully and completely during my time on this planet?” 

How does this relate to your sacred purpose? Because it is what you are here to deeply experience and then share that experience with others. If you are interested in exploring your sacred purpose, you can click here to learn about my secret sauce session.

Tangible Tool For You

So how does this help the how? Take a moment and connect to your Soul via your Soul Language Team and ask yourself the following questions:

  • “What is the next tangible action step that aligns with the question above (about your sacred purpose)?”
  • “What action step have I been doing that isn’t serving me?”
  • “Where am I trying to do the Universe’s job? What does the Universe suggest the next action step for me is?”
  • “What do I get to activate inside to know that I am safe in not knowing all of the how steps?”

Often we are trying to do everything and make something happen…here’s the truth. We are being supported in ways that are seen and unseen. For one day, try and just do the next step as it comes. Let go of the “to-do sheets” and all that strategy and just allow yourself to be led.

If you require some additional tools – you might consider purchasing the Creating Divine Inspired Action sheet. This worksheet supports listening internally and seeing, knowing and taking action on the Divinely inspired step. This helps us be in the flow and manifest what we desire and not based on pattern.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.


Learning to Love

February 10, 2016

One of my favorite songs to sing is – Say Something. One of the lyrics is: I’m still learning to love, Just starting to crawl. And, that is truly what being in the consciousness of love is all about…you are always learning.

This exercise is to raise your love meter…I have also included one of my prayers from my new book – A Little Book of Prayers.

Tangible Tool For You

Take a moment and connect to your Soul via your Soul Language Team and ask yourself the following questions:

  • What does it feel like in my body and in my life when I’m in the consciousness of love?
  • What is “holding me back” from experience love in other areas of my life?
  • Am I willing and able to let that “thing” holding me back go? And, if so, what does my Soul say the next step to do that is…

Often we can utilize a prayer to do the heavy lifting for us…this is prayer from my new book might support guiding you to being in the consciousnesses of love more…

Love the prayer above…some other prayers in the book are: Letting Go of Fear, A Prayer for Freedom, Relationship with Money, Lift the Struggle and many more. You can purchase your copy of the book by clicking here. If you do purchase the book, send me the receipt and I will send you two additional prayers not in the book.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.


Ready, Set, Let Go

January 21, 2016

There is a falsity about letting things go…we sometimes believe that if we let something go, we will never have to let it go again…wrong!

Some situations and beliefs “need” to be let go in stages or several times. And, that is ok! The big themes of challenge (not enough, not feeling safe, not trusting, etc.) are a way that we have selected to remind us to choose love. We set these big challenges up as a way to remind us that we are whole and complete, that we are Divine, that we are in fact, enough, safe, etc.  Crazy pants!

So how can you start to forgive yourself for those past mistakes or missteps in your life that are preventing you from being in the feeling of happiness?

Tangible Tool For You

Take a moment and connect to your Soul via your Soul Language Team and ask yourself the following questions:

  • What past mistake am I holding on to and if I let it go what am I afraid of?
  • Who would I be without this past mistake and who am I because of it?
  • Where is the energy of this past mistake living in my body and how is it preventing me from receiving what I desire?

Now, if you are ready and willing, you can ask Divine Intelligence to guide you in how to hand that past mistake energy over to the Divine.

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

 


Shame Around Not Enough

November 11, 2015

In a lot of spiritual circles I know, shame isn’t really talked about. We talk about fear. According to David Hawkins, when we are in the shame consciousness, our life view is miserable and the emotion is humiliation. Wow!!!!!

That is powerful energy you are bringing to your life and your relationship with money. So if you transform that just a little, that would change your entire life. See, most people think that they need to move from lack consciousness to a consciousness of total abundance and prosperity…all you “need” to do is move the scale a little, and that will impact your life … from there, you can decide the next level of consciousness you would like to move into…

So today’s exercise is going to help you move from shame to courage. Here’s what happens in the consciousness of courage, according to David Hawkins: “…power first appears. Courage is the zone of exploration, accomplishment, fortitude and determination…life is seen to be exciting, challenging and stimulating.”

That sounds much better than shame to me…David says this about shame: “failure to take steps to prolong life. In shame we hang our heads and slink away, wishing that we were invisible…”

Ready to move into courage and transform your heartbreak to power? Connect to your Soul via your Soul Language Team.

  • Ask your Soul to clearly explain or show you how you are enough.
  • Ask your Soul to give you a clear step to bring this feeling into your every day life.
  • And finally, look in the mirror and say, “Where there has been shame around not enough and money, now there is only courage. I am willing and able to take the next step that supports this new relationship with myself and money.”

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

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