December 15, 2010 by  

There is so much power within the Soul Language community…I wanted to share with you members experience and expansions.

This guest blog is by Colleen Keenan.  She is a Politician (Axiom of Quest), Sextand (Axiom of Translation) and a Captain (Tone).

This is from a letter that she sent out to her fellow coaches. Being a Teacher of Integrity, I found this personally inspiring.

As a coach of any kind, you always have to deal with accountability – and how to handle it when people don’t do what they’ve agreed to do.  Some coaches take the approach of firing clients who don’t live up to their commitments.  I thought I’d share my own thinking process, where it is right now….

I think it makes some sense to focus on the people we can help easily and “fire” or avoid clients who are just too much for us.  I made the mistake early on of taking on clients I was simply not a good enough coach to inspire.  My ego told me I could help anyone and this blinded me somewhat.  Working with them made me a better coach and was helpful to them, but it was also frustrating and didn’t grow my business as quickly as another strategy would have.

I know what it’s like to feel angry and frustrated – with clients as well as prospects!   But I do feel responsible for asking myself where that emotion is coming from in me.   Am I angry because I really believe they are capable of change and simply refusing to do it – so I’m angry at them for making a choice I wouldn’t make?  Hmmmm.   Am I really just frustrated with myself for not being able to get through?  Am I offended and hurt that what I’ve offered is clearly not good enough – and hurt by the rejection?  Am I worried that their failure to do the work will harm my reputation?  Am I afraid they will fire me because I can’t “get them” to do the work – so I want to reject them first?

So, here are some questions I ask myself when a client does not do their homework:

  • Was this their homework, or mine?  Did they truly choose this task out of their free will, or just agree to it to get me off their back?
  • Is this really the most important stuff for them to do – or is their instinct to do something else telling us something we need to hear?
  • Do they have the skills to do this work?  If they don’t, are they afraid to tell me that?
  • Do they have the skills to create the time in which to get this work done?  Do we need to work on that first?
  • Is this homework bringing up some kind of negative emotion for them that they can’t deal with?  Can I help with that?  Can someone else?
  • Am I truly concerned that they are hurting themselves and their business, or am I making this somehow about me (see questions in previous section!)

Asking all this, and then cutting myself a break for being human and feeling all this stuff sometimes helps me clear my head.  My goal is always to act from a place of abundance, courage and greatness.  I fail miserably a lot, but I try!

From that place of greatness, I often find I can reach people on a different level – appealing to their own greatness to help them over the rough spots. Not always, but when it happens, it’s powerful.  And, even if I can’t reach them, I know I am acting from my own best self, and that’s truly the best I can do.


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  1. Amy Miyamoto (@LotusAmy) on December 20th, 2010 11:01 am

    Loved your list of power questions. I can see how they would work beautifully in maintaining our center and empowered intention for ourselves and our clients. Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom.

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