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Stop Trying To Figure Out “The Secret” and Allow Yourself To Experience Feeling Safe

April 4, 2012 by  

It shouldn’t be a shock to anyone following me or part of my community that I’m “dating.” While I might not share all the exciting details, I’m transparent in how I experience my faith. Well, the dating experience is the big one and is taking all my faith to move through.

There are challenges in life that will utilize all your resources, all your tools and then stretch you to go deeper in your experience of faith and connection.

Why is dating the catalyst for me while for others its money? Well, interactive relationships have always been a catalyst for growth for me.

It truly doesn’t matter what area you hold onto your pain like a death grip of a warrior…it’s what you decide is more important –holding onto the pain or experiencing what you truly desire.

It has taken me a long time to admit, explain or come to terms with what I truly want. I had an amazing conversation with someone who was sharing with me the five values of humans (on a side note, if he decides to turn this into a product –brilliant).

I’m only going to share with you two. Family and Spirituality. You can guess what my number one value is: Spirituality (for those that don’t like to bet ). His of course was family.

And this conversation triggered in me huge amounts of feelings of not being safe.

What do you do in that situation when you want to run screaming from the room and hide? My suggestion is that you connect with your team and activate the Divine safety in your body. Your Soul knows how to do this and if you let go and get on the ride, your body will fill with the feeling you “need” to feel safe.

You don’t look for the secret. You don’t try to analyze or emotionally relive all those other areas and experiences that say, “Look! Here is proof that you aren’t safe.”

And, in moving into safety in my body (and continuing to move there) what I realized in that moment…that it was bigger than just my connection with the Divine. I want to experience spiritualty in relationships as well. Now, some of you might be saying, DUH!

A lot of pieces started falling into place for me. Truth be told, I don’t really know the next “dating” step. And truth be told, that makes me a little jittery and yet, isn’t that the purpose of moving through this so I can experience a new connection of safety, a new way of being in the love of the Divine? Isn’t that why I continue my journey of raising my consciousness?

So, my challenge for you is to be brave in an area that you feel unsafe in and be willing to feel the truth that you are safe no matter what. This is a very big concept and where I begin to help people move through levels of consciousness.

As I was writing this, Rev. Frankie Timmers and the Center of Spiritual Mind in Morristown sent out their weekly Spiritual Mind Treatment (affirmative prayer). I thought I would share it with you, because it is so profound. It demonstrates how the Universe supports me (if I let it) and how truly I am safe and God is listening to me. And if God (or whatever you call your higher power) is listening to me, than he is listening to you.

My heart lights up, the moment I connect in Love.
Today I CHOOSE Love wherever I am, whatever is going on, whomever I am with.
I CHOOSE LOVE!!
In Love, I see Good everywhere and in everyone.
In Love, I know the Truth.
In Love, I know ALL is well.
In Love, I have deep faith.
In Love, the Divine Flow of Love provides me with what I need to live my life to the fullest.
So, I surrender to the Divine Love that is already IN me and I let it do Its work.
It knows what to do and how to do it, so in my state of surrender I let myself be used as a conduit for Love.
My life becomes what it is meant to be.
I welcome the effortlessness and the grace of this.
My eyes, ears, heart and mind are wide open, so I can consciously spread this Love.
It comes right back to me and I feel blessed.
AND SO IT IS!

Center for Spiritual Living Morristown

If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

Ways of the Warrior

December 13, 2010 by  

So for the last several years, I have been having a conscious conversation with my Soul via my Soul Languages.  My Tone (Soulful personality) is Graceful Warrior.

To say I have done a lot of talking, cursing, crying, accepting and embracing of the Warrior to move into the graceful part is an under-statement.  And, just when I was feeling the growth of the Graceful Warrior, (as with all areas of expansion and growth) I decided to kick it up a notch and identify the Soul Languages of my business.

The Tone of my business (the Soulful personality of my business) is the Collaborator.   When I turned over the testing sheet and saw what the Language was, I wanted to cry.

Why? Simply, because in the past, I personally tried to collaborate with someone or something I experienced profound amounts of pain.  Gut retching, puffy eyes from crying, sit on the couch and eat cheese pain.

I could instantly see why my business was on a plateau and I knew that to bring my business where I wanted to go (and it wanted to go), the Warrior was going to have to be comfortable and embrace collaboration.

What was happening was:

  • My business’ Soul has a deep sense of collaboration and co-creating
  • My personal experiences had been painful (and financially) costly when it came to collaboration, so I was shutting down, hiding out and refusing to participate and listen to a huge part of my business

How did I embrace collaboration?  I created a conscious connection with my Soul and the Soul of the business and finally understood that I was going to be loved, provided, protected and provided for.  So in a sense, I understood that it was safe to be me in my business.  The warrior moved into Graceful and is backing the collaborated with honor and strength.

What happened next in my business and in my life?

  • There was an increase of joint venture opportunities and one person even said to me, “I want this to be a collaboration, a win/win situation for both of us.”
  • I’m more open to receiving so there has been an increase in revenue and clients
  • The business and myself are experiencing a new level of support

What I uncovered about this collaboration with my Soul and the Soul of my business was a new way to be a Graceful Warrior.

I was in a power struggle with my business. How did I find this out? Once I understood the Soul Languages of my business, I realized I may not have been fully aligned with my business’ mission, how it would be known here or its personality. Your business is a part of you yet has its own Soul — just like a child is part of its parent yet is a separate being.

If you are interested in learning more about the Soul Languages of your business, I invite you to join us on December 14th at 7:00 p.m. for The Business of Soul complimentary call.  Here’s the link to participate.

Experiencing & Overcoming Feelings of Failure and Self-Worth

July 8, 2010 by  

One of the informational tools that I’ve picked up along my journey has been hand-analysis. I found it so helpful that I took Baeth Davis’ course and I’m including a hand-analysis in an upcoming in-person course, Soul Success — Loving and Accepting You, on July 31st.  The most important information that I felt hand-analysis provided me with wasn’t my life purpose, but my Skillbuilder (hand-analysis calls it your life lesson). Your Skillbuilder (or life lesson) is your biggest pattern or belief challenge. It’s hard wired into your system and each time you move from struggling with your life lesson to being your life purpose it builds skills, hence the name change on my part.

I find that knowing and understanding when you are experiencing your Skillbuilder helps you to move from struggle to flow.  I also find that most people are in Skillbuilder when they are in the struggle side of their Soul Languages.

My Skillbuilder is failure and self-worth.  When I have gotten on the train to Skillbuilder town, it is extremely hard for me to feel like the spiritual leader that I truly am.

What are some of the clues that reveal you might be experiencing your own Skillbuilder? Sometimes the clues are big ones such as depression, anger, feeling stuck or feeling unsupported.  Sometimes the clues are sneaky like word choices, moving too fast, not checking in with yourself, people pleasing and/or servitude.  Of course, these are just a few experiences.

So how can you overcome your Skillbuilder experience to be who you truly are?  I enlist the help of my Soul via my Soul Languages and Divine Intelligence.

The first thing I do is PAUSE!  And, ask Divine Intelligence to fill my body with the feeling of being loved, supported and at peace.

This allows me to get back onto the train and start to move out of Skillbuilder town. Remember, judging yourself because you are in struggle or Skillbuilder town will keep you locked down in the struggle. If you have a tendency to beat yourself up, add the words without judgment to the statement above. So you will ask Divine Intelligence to fill your body with the feeling of being loved, supported, without judgment and at peace.

What Does The Universe Feel About You?
Then I ask Divine Intelligence to show me vividly and clearly how the Universe feels about me. The Universe will give me different images or feelings.  Each time I have asked this question, whatever the image, thought or feeling it has always been beautiful and filled with love.

Making my way back to being ME is the first step. The second step is utilizing this experience to expand and be more powerful. So I ground and center myself and connect with one of my Soul Languages for additional information and guidance. My suggestion for this scenario is to create a conscious connection with your Axiom of Quest (your mission Language) using Divine Intelligence. Why the Axiom of Quest (mission) Language?  When your mind, body and Soul are in alignment with your mission, it is easier to gather resources to be that mission. You will know when you need to have a heart-to-heart with your Axiom of Quest because you’ll feel like you don’t know what you are supposed to be doing or you don’t feel like you are living your mission or purpose.

If you don’t know (yet) your Axiom of Quest, ask Divine Intelligence to connect you with this part of your Soul. Divine Intelligence will do this for you. When you know your Soul Languages, it allows you to create really good questions, among other things, to receive clarity about your life.

Here’s the question to ask your Axiom of Quest (mission) Language:

How can I enlist the help of my Axiom of Quest to experience struggle or Skillbuilder less?

My Axiom of Quest (mission) Language is Equalizer. My mission is to help myself and others create a balanced formula to achieve what they desire.  So the answer to this question for me was to participate more fully in my daily balancing mediation. My Languages are really action-oriented so I tend to rush through things.

What information did you receive? Now, it is up to you to follow through.

If this topic interests you, I suggest you discover my upcoming in-person class, Soul Success – Loving and Accepting You or my upcoming July teleclass, How To Be The Great Receiver.

Jennifer Urezzio is an intuitive healer and the founder of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

To receive your 15 minute complimentary Soul Language session click here.

What Is Your Theme Song?

March 9, 2010 by  

We often have a repeating story in our heads, the story of how we perceive things are. Some of this story can be changed and updated to make it easier for you to receive what you desire. No matter how long you have been on your journey, you can always update and improve on your “story.”

You can always tell how a story is going to play out by its theme. The theme of your story is all about whether you’ll receive what you desire or be in some kind of struggle. If you are interested in updating your story, a good way to start is with your theme song.

For example, if your theme song is “It’s a hard knock life,” it might be time to update your story–why not start with a theme song like “Beautiful Day,” by U2?

Practical Tool
Notice what type of music you like to listen to and which songs really hit home. Ask yourself, why? For example, if you notice yourself listening to a lot of moody love songs, it might be time to release emotions from a former relationship.

Exercise
Listen to your ipod or the radio with your Soul. Settle in and connect to one of your three Languages. If you Languages haven’t been identified yet, just take a deep breath and connect to the energy of your heart. What Souls inspire your Soul? Then ask yourself, why? This helps create a relationship with the most important individual: you.

One of the theme songs of my life currently is Radiohead’s “House of Cards.” Until I did the exercise above, I didn’t understand what significance it had for my life. Remember, you are being sent messages of love each day, and music is an amazing delivery system.

Find a song that inspires you, that uplifts you, and make this your theme song. Recently, my brother sent me a text and told me if the song Horchata by Vampire Weekend didn’t make me smile, he would reimburse me the 1.99 from iTunes.

Now it makes me smile every time it comes up on my iPod. For two reasons: because it is the silliest song I have ever heard, and because it reminds me how much spirit and love my brother has.

So, my question for you is: what’s your theme song?

Jennifer Urezzio is an intuitive healer and the founder of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

To receive your 15 minute complimentary Soul Language session click here.

Hey, It’s A Good Thing To Be In Transition

December 1, 2009 by  

Butterfly

I started this post a while ago but got side tracked by transition.  When I went to sit down and craft my blog posts this week, this one jumped out at me and I started to giggle.

Why was I reduced to a laughing fit with tears rolling down my face?  I didn’t remember writing that title!  Here’s why transition is a good thing:

  • It’s a new beginning filled with golden opportunities
  • It allows you to clear out the clutter that has been holding you anchored to an old way of creating your life
  • It allows you to expand your receiving abilities
  • It allows you to prepare for something much bigger in your life

A tool to help you feel good about your transitional state is the strength of your Soul.  Below is an exercise to help you consciously connect with your Soul and tap into the never-ending supply of grace inside of you.

  • Take a deep breath and focus on your tailbone (this gives your mind a focusing point)
  • Set the intention to create a conscious connection with your Soul.  If you know your Soul Languages, connect to your Tone (the personality Language).
  • Ask your Soul and body to show you how you can be in transition and in joy at the same time.

Somewhere along the way you made a choice, whether consciously or unconsciously, to move from one thing to another.  Now you get to make that choice in full awareness, understanding and feeling that it is a good thing.

Be Conscious * Be Connected * Be Soul * Be Successful

Jennifer Urezzio is an intuitive healer and the founder of Know Soul’s Language.  Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance.  Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.

To receive your 15 minute complimentary Soul Language session click here.

“There is a New Tool to Heal Relationships and It Is Called Facebook"

December 10, 2008 by  

A number of friends and clients have said to me, “Hey, you won’t believe who contacted me through Facebook…” When this connection occurs you can feel excited and happy to be back in touch with this person or it can bring up unresolved feelings of angst and resentment.
Facebook is a social network that was created to help people connect and network. Although, intended or not it has become a tool that can help to give us closure to past relationships. How many of us have searched for old friends, ex-lovers and former business associates that we miss, needed to say some unfinished business or wanted just to see what was going on in their lives?

So the major question is, “what do you do if you are connected by someone from your past?”
I don’t know who said it but “the past is always present”. Being contacted by someone from your past with whom you have unresolved feelings gives you the chance to decide if you would like to heal that part of your past. The opportunity also gives you a chance to accept more fully who you are and can help build self-esteem. Below are some simple guidelines how to connect with someone from your past or how to handle being contacted by someone from your past.

Be Clear About What You Want
Before you begin searching for former lovers, old friends or past business associates, ask yourself why are you contacting them? What do you wish to heal or find out? Remember, the affect this relationship had on you – how you felt about yourself when interacting with this person. So if you are looking to have the final word, point out mistakes or hear from this person, “you were right;” you might want to rethink the situation before your search.
If you are unclear to how this person is going to react to your contacting them, Facebook has a feature where you can send a private message first before requesting them to be added as your friend.

There are several avenues to take in re-establishing a former relationship.
· You can determine that want ended the relationship is no longer important to you and doesn’t need to be discussed.
· You can have an open and honest conversation about the situation and both suggest how things can be resolved. In this situation, be prepared the other person may not be at this same place and unwilling to work towards resolving the conflict.
· You can start from the beginning and wipe the slate clean.
An individual that you contact might not want to or be ready to establish a connection, don’t take it personally if you are not contacted back.

Below is an exercise that I suggest you do prior to contacting a former relationship.
Find commonalities that you share. Often we focus on the differences. Write down five “things” you have/had in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.

Friend Request
Recently, a friend of mine said that she added a friend request to her Facebook. After she did this, this friend wanted to open a line of communication. She has changed a lot since this relationship and now realizes that this former relationship wasn’t really healthy for her.
Remember, just because you are contacted you don’t need to respond. Take a moment to check in with yourself and to determine if this is a relationship that you want to establish again. Sometimes in life we pick friends for certain reasons: to work on issues we share, to expand ourselves and/or because of beliefs that we grew up with. Now you can to choose who you share your time with, even it is cyberspace.

Be Yourself
So you have reconnected with your past and you are feeling good about it. It is important that with every connection with this person that you ask yourself “Am I being myself?”
Sometimes when we reconnect to an old relationship, we have a habit of slipping into our old ways of connecting from childhood that weren’t in our best interest to begin with. One of these ways is by saying and doing things that we don’t fully believe in.

When you check in with yourself this allows you to make more conscious decisions about interacting with this individual.

Facebook is wonderful for sharing your everyday thoughts and feelings and yet, it can lead to a false sense of intimacy with others because of this way of sharing. If you are interested in establishing a relationship of depth set aside some one-on-one time whether it is by phone or in-person.

I think Facebook is an amazing tool to get started in reconnecting with people that are longer part of your intimate circle. It also gives you a chance to create a new, stronger relationship with that person.

Learn more about Know Soul’s Language at http://www.soullanguage.us/.

3 Ways To Heal A Relationship

December 3, 2008 by  

We all have experienced at least one relationship that is not what we wanted.

Whether it be a parental relationship, a lover, a friend; the lingering pain can be causing you to repeat non-beneficial patterns, preventing you from finding the closeness you desire or still causing you to relive the pain.

It is the beginning of the holiday season and a great time to heal those relationships.

This is a subject that can bring forth a lot of questions for you. So please, please, please bring those questions forth. They can be submitted anonymously on my blog.

3 Ways to Heal A Relationship

The key to healing a relationship is not trying to change the other person. It is to coming into peace and alignment with want you want, what you receive and what the relationship truly is.

One of the most impactful relationships we will experience is the parental relationship. An amazing woman told me once that: a rock is hard, water is wet and your parents are just your parents.

Remember that each one of these tips are for YOU to help YOU heal. Please pass these tips on!

1. Find Commonalities — Often we focus on the differences. Write down five “things” you have in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.
2. Be Thankful — Most humans learn by experience. Write down three things that you learned because of the relationship and how they have beneficially impacted your life. Read each one out loud, starting with the words “I’m thankful because I learned…”
3. Communicate — If you are interested in moving forward in the relationship. Write down what you want and want you are willing to provide. This will help you to communicate clearly with the person. Remember, just because you clearly communicate what you want, that person might not be able to provide it. It is important if you are going to proceed in the relationship that you accept that person for who they are and not who you want them to be.

F.R.E.E. class on Know Soul’s Language on December 16th at 7:00 p.m. EST. This class will focus on healing relationships.

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3 Ways to Create Supportive Relationships

August 18, 2008 by  

3 Ways to Create Supportive Relationships
Language Tip of the Week

We hear from a lot of KSL members that they feel unsupported. They feel alone, like no one understands them and in some cases that they have no one to turn to when “times are hard.”

Support was one of the main reasons why we started the KSL program and work. We asked guidance on how we could find people who would support us and received the first information about Know Soul’s Language.

Most people believe if this person would change then the relationship would be better, I will feel more supportive, more loved, happier. Your relationships reflect how you feel about YOU! So, you must CHOOSE SUPPORT for yourself and then you will GET the support you desire from others.

Below are three steps to get you on your way to creating supportive relationships:
Support Yourself- List all the ways you support yourself during the day. These can be anything from “I eat healthy” to “I get 8 hours of sleep a night.”

Now, Really Support Yourself – Create 5 new ways to support yourself. Anything from, “Taking a New Class” to “Setting Aside 15 Minutes a Day Just for Me.”

Just One Step — Select one of those items from above and start it TODAY!

Start Creating More Supportive Relationships NOW!

Sign up for a F.R.E.E. 15 minute session with Soul Language experts Intuitive Healer, Jennifer Urezzio and Reverend Tonya Joy.

During this session you will learn how to select your support team, so you can get the life you have been dreaming about.